“Someone once told me that I would never amount to anything. I showed them.”
I have heard that statement so often as people have shared their story about how they became a ‘success’ and what fueled them to get there. On the face of it, it appears that some of the greatest inventions, businesses, sporting feats have grown out of strong desire to ‘prove the haters wrong’.
I can’t help by think that maybe I’m doing my kids a dis-service by giving them encouragement and telling them that they can do hard things. Perhaps I should be telling them they will never be able to do it, and they won’t amount to anything, you know, to help fuel them on to greatness.
This idea of doing something in spite of the people who opposed you is more than just motivation. It is about contentment, happiness and joy. Is so called ‘greatness’ worth the sadness and depression that comes afterwards? Because once you achieve what you set out for, often there is a cliff that leads to the depths of despair. It is a common experience for Olympic athletes after they finish competing at the highest level.
The quote from Cool Runnings comes to mind, “A gold medal is a wonderful thing. But if you’re not enough without it, you’ll never be enough with it.”
You can use it for just about any other life situation:
- A good marriage is a wonderful thing
- Being a father is a wonderful thing
- Owning a home is a wonderful thing
- Getting a promotion is a wonderful thing
- Landing that speaking gig is a wonderful thing
- Writing a book is a wonderful thing
- Earning more money is a wonderful thing
- Winning that game is a wonderful thing
- Winning that race is a wonderful thing
- Being a leader is a wonderful thing
- Having a large following is a wonderful thing
…but if you’re not enough without it, you’ll never be enough with it.
What does it mean to be enough?
It’s contentment. It’s peace. It’s being able to sit in the stillness and quiet – to seek it out even, and to not need anything else.
If you can find that, then that is worth more than gold.







