Tag: Hard Work

Vicarious Joy

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We are encouraged to live life ourselves, to experience things firsthand, to not live life as a spectator, watching others do wonderful things. Which I totally agree with…mostly.

One minor proviso, and it is around joy.

One of the best things we can do is to celebrate other people. Their successes. Their good fortune. Their hard work. Their awards. Their happiness. Their joy.

It may not come naturally, (it doesn’t to me), but it is something that we can work on over time to shift our thinking and spend time contemplating those in our lives. Think about each person that we love and be thankful for them, happy for them, joyful for them for all that is going right in their lives. You don’t even have to share it with them if you don’t want to.

Once you do that, think about those in your life that are neutral, neither love nor hate, and do the same thing.

Then, you guessed it, work your way towards thinking on those that you hate, those that have hurt you, those that have caused you some issues*, and contemplate thankfulness, happiness and joy.

If you can do that, it will literally change your brain and how you perceive the world.

*I’m not suggesting this as a tool to try if you have people who have genuinely caused you trauma, please see a professional.

Lagging

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“All success is a lagging indicator” – Ryan Holiday

All good things come after the work.

If something good comes that you didn’t work for you usually waste it because you don’t fully understand how valuable it is.

So, the hard work that you are putting in right now, the discipline that no one else is seeing, the incremental progress which is almost invisible to anyone but you, that is the foundation of future success.

No one has ever won a gold medal without working for it over a long period of time. The medal is a lagging indication of how hard they have worked.

Success is a combination of that hard work, along with planning, reassessing, consistency and a whole lot of luck.

The cold hard reality is that success is never guaranteed, so you may as well find a way to enjoy the hard work that you are doing, because this could be the only reward you get from it.

Probably the most important part of this is to map out what success is for you. What are you aiming for? Is that really success? Start with that, and then do the other things. It will save you from faux success in the future, which is actually failure.

What are the chances?

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Out of every person that was born when I was born, what are the chances that I was born in Australia?

In the year I was born (which you can guess at), there were 124,287,658 other babies born in the world. In Australia there were 223,034 other babies born in that same year.

That means that I had a 1 in 557 chance of being born in Australia.

At the same time there were approximately 65,000,000 children born in Asia, most of which, at that time, were born into poverty. So, going on the numbers, in the year that I was born, there was approximately a 1 in 2 chance of being born in Asia, most likely into poverty. That doesn’t take into account the African continent at all. The numbers get pretty intense at that point.

Suffice to say, the chances of me being born into a country that wasn’t experiencing debilitating poverty were slim at best. But here I am, lucky I guess.

So, what’s the point?

The concept of the ‘self-made man’ or ‘self-made woman’ start to lose meaning for me at this juncture. I find it a little amusing when people start talking about how they pulled themselves up by their own bootstraps to get to where they are, or that it was only through their hard work and skill that they have succeeded in life.

More and more I strongly doubt those assertions. Hard work is definitely necessary in life, but looking at the odds laid out above (and this is just location of birth), I think it is more to do with luck than anything else. Where you were born, your gender, your race, your family of origin, all of these have a huge effect on your life before you even get the chance to start working hard.