I am sure that you have been on the receiving end or been the one saying that phrase at some stage in your life. Teaching our young people to be grateful for the gifts that people give us is a foundational part of being a human. Gratitude is right. Being ungrateful is ugly.
A forced ‘thank you’ is technically still a thank you. It’s the same as a forced apology. Making our kids say the words is the simplest way to get them to sound like they are doing the right thing, but if it’s out of force and not a genuine response does it really mean what we think it does? Sure, it may make us look like great parents of polite and grateful children on the surface, but true gratitude or appropriate remorse is deeper than that.
Teaching a little person to be genuinely grateful or genuinely sorry takes more time and effort than just getting them to repeat the words. It’s the process of encouraging them to connect with how they are feeling and then attempt to connect with how another person is feeling. There is no simple way to do this, and it takes time and is connected to brain and emotional development.
Saying the right words is a start but make sure you create enough space to allow kids to sit, feel and then choose a way to respond to a generous act or a mistake that has been made.
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